Smile! Though Your Heart Is Aching
Love, for me, is the most wonderful word that has ever been “created” and loving is the best feeling… but it can also be the worst when love is lost… When that happens, we feel as though we’re the loneliest person in the world with no one to turn to. Not even our family or best friends can help us deal with the pain of a break up. I have had my share of break ups and believe me, I experienced countless sleepless nights and not eating anything at all. But I always was able to “bounce back” and fall in love all over again. Of course I had to go through all the “stages” – denial, anger and acceptance. And what helped me go through all these stages, though absurd as it may seem, are “quotes”. Yes, quotes that anybody can easily find in books, the internet, and even at the most incongruous place such as the comfort room.
Quotes, I have come to realize, help us to understand that we are not alone and that there are other people out there experiencing the same pain of a broken heart. And knowing that others have gone through the same fate and survived gives us solace and strength to keep it together… to just hang in there until the pain is over.
I know a break up is painful but please believe me in saying that “sometimes things just don’t work out with someone because there is some other person out there who is destined to be with us; who will love us just the way we want to.” I know that now because I am with that someone. My soulmate and true love, I’m certain that Dex is the person God has chosen for me because I’ve never been happier and more in love than I am now.
In line with this, I have listed 5 of the most inspiring break up quotes for you, which hopefully will make you feel better and more positive about the future if you are going through a break up right now.
The 5 most “inspiring” break up quotes to live by:
1. “If you really love something set it free. If it comes back it’s yours, if not it wasn’t meant to be.”
Relationships aren’t all “roses”. Most of the time, we experience some “bumps” along the way which makes us have second thoughts whether we have to fight for it or just let go. The “bumps” I’m referring to may be, feelings of insecurity for whatever reason; third party; uncertainty of your love’s future, etc. Whatever the reason is, sometimes it helps to get “detached” from these negative things, to let go, in order for you to realize if you truly love the person. And if after the “break up/letting go” and you find yourselves back in each others arms, then your relationship is really meant to be.
2. “‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
-Alfred Lord Tennyson
One of the oldest quotes I know and although it won’t console you at the onset of the breakup, once you have overcome the pain and have understood its true meaning, only then will you recognize its value and profoundness. That it is better to have experienced love and pain so that the next time you fall in love with someone, you will appreciate and love that person more for he is willing to give you the love which you truly deserve.
3. “Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart do not know how to laugh either.”
Get angry, vent out, cry your heart out or do whatever it is you feel will help you “release” the pain that you are feeling. Go through all the negative aspects of a break up because once you have gone through them with your full consciousness, you will learn to appreciate and benefit from all the positive aspects of your future love.
4. “Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.”
One harsh reality of falling in love is that there is a risk of being hurt because problems do occur and you have to recognize if the relationship is still worth saving or not. Sad, but true. But in doing this, you lessen the risk of being hurt by the same old problem over and over again. Sometimes, the only solution to it is just letting go and moving on.
5. “You have to forgive to forget, and forget, to feel again.”
I have always believed that if you have been jaded in the past but haven’t let go of the anger; haven’t forgotten the pain; if you hold on to those feelings, then you can never really move on. “Emotional baggage” is something that can ruin your future relationships because you will always be doubtful if it will actually work out.
Some advice from someone who has experienced it all – me! Even though you are sad and feel like crying, don’t ever let your Ex see you in this position. Smile and make him/her think that you’re happy. In doing so, it would show your Ex that you’re not being needy and most important of all; it will make them wonder if they have made the right decision of breaking up with you. How’s that for exacting retribution? Also, constant smiling inspite of the pain is one great way of tricking your mind into thinking that you’re happy. By smiling, our body sends signals to the brain that we are happy even though we’re not and by constantly doing this, our mind will ultimately accept the state of the body. One last thing, always remember that pain and suffering are two very DIFFERENT things. Pain is something unavoidable. Whether we like it or not, we will FEEL it. But suffering is NOT. It is a choice. You can either choose to suffer by wallowing in pain for all eternity or you can choose to accept that it’s over, cry a little then move on.
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