It really irks me when I see a friend crying in pain over someone and it is so obvious that there is no future in the relationship and yet they hang on because they fear that they may find no one else. What is that all about? Why should you settle for someone who is a pain in the ass? Have you no self-esteem? Each one of us deserves the very best in life. Don’t settle for someone mediocre because you want a companion or because you’re lonely. If you want a constant companion go buy yourself a dog! But don’t settle for just anyone because in the end you will end up two unhappy people and that ultimately sucks. As I always say: If you want the pain, don’tcomplain!
Now tell me: Am I being idealisticin believing that being in love with someone or having someone love you shouldn’t make you cry and miserable about yourself? Love is supposed to be comfortable and easy. It should make you glow, not like you have been through hell. I just feel that anything worth it should feel good and not make you reach out for a Valium or a shot of Tequila. Not everything in love is smooth sailing, of course, but almost 90 percent of the time, things should be smooth sailing, not vice versa.